Whether to use “whom” or “who” in spoken or written English is a major problem among native speakers and learners of English. This problem has led to an intentional abandonment of the former and an over reliance on the latter, which English users assume is much more
appropriate in any context. This might be based on how pleasant the
utterance or sentence is to the ears of the speaker(s).That is why an English
user can wrongly substitute "whom" for "who" without anyone noticing, not even an English teacher. Allowing this beast to keep on spreading its tentacles is like accepting that which
totally unacceptable. Therefore, with ample examples, this article unravels the
rules guiding the use of “whom” and “who” in sentences.
“Whom” and “who” are both relative and interrogative
pronouns. As relative pronouns, they give additional information about the
noun(s) preceding them.
Examples
- The
man who helped me is my uncle.
- Her
friend, in whom she confided, finally let the cat out of
the bag.
The sentences above could as well be written as “The man is my
uncle.” and “Her friend finally let the cat out of the bag.” respectively without their actual meanings being distorted. “Who” and “Whom” in these sentences only give additional
information to the nouns preceding them; thus their absence will not, in any
way, distort the actual meanings of the sentences.
As interrogative pronouns, “whom” and “who” are used
to ask questions.
Examples
- Who
is that?
- Whom did you invite to the party?
WHEN AND HOW TO USE "WHOM" IN SENTENCES
The long-lasting dilemma on whether to use "whom" or
"who" in a given sentence can be resolved if these rules are applied:
Rule 1: Use “whom” if the
answer to the question is him, her or them,
or if “whom” can be replaced with him, her or them.
Example: Who/Whom did you invite to the party?
To make it easier, let's turn the question into a statement. You
invited who/whom to the party. If you were asked to replace who/whom with
either “he” or “him”, which do you think would be more
appropriate. Without any iota of doubt, you would say, “You
invited him to the party.” “Whom” is much more
appropriate since it can be replaced with "him" in the
sentence. Therefore, “Whom did you invite to
the party?” becomes the right thing to say.
Example 2: I wanted to know who/whom they
gave the book.
To get the right option, just ask yourself this simple question, “Who/Whom
did they give book?” Would you say "they gave the book to him or he”?
You would definitely say “They gave the book to him.” Therefore, “I wanted to know whom they gave the book.” becomes the correct statement.
Example 3: Who/Whom did they punch?
You answer would definitely be, “They punched him.” So, “whom” is much more appropriate here.
Rule 2: Use “whom” after a
preposition.
Examples
- This
is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased.
- To whom
it may concern.
- To
whom am I speaking?
- From
whom did you get the books?
The bold words in the examples above are all prepositions hence the use
of “whom” in the sentences.
WHEN AND HOW TO USE "WHO" IN A SENTENCE
Although "whom" and "who" belong the same class of
pronoun and perform similar functions, where one is used, the other can't be
used. It is, therefore, paramount to state, with corresponding examples, when to
use "who" in a sentence.
Rule 1: Use “who” if you
can replace it with he/she or they.
Example: Who/Whom cooked this tasty meal?
To answer this question, we would say, “He cooked this tasty
meal.”, not “*Him cooked this tasty meal.” Therefore, “who” is correct.
Example 2: I just want to know who/whom won
the contest.
Unlike the first example, this is a statement, but in order to get the
correct option, let’s turn it into a question using a part of the sentence. “Who/whom won the contest?” If we try to turn this question into a
statement, we would say, “He won the contest.” So, "who" is
very correct. And the above example would be, “I just want to know who won
the contest.”
Rule 2: Use “who” immediately
after a noun or pronoun when giving an additional information about that noun
or pronoun.
Examples
- His
father, who is a staunch opponent of drugs, is a drug
addict.
- The
man who helped me is my uncle.
- It
was a nice man who assisted us.
WHY SHOULD ONE USE "WHOM"?
It is quite unfortunate that the use of “whom” in modern
English is fading out probably because English users have little or no
knowledge of how and when to use this word in a sentence. In fact, you could
spend your entire life without ever using “whom” and 99.9%
of English users would never even notice. This has placed “whom” almost in the same category with words such as “thy” and “thou”.
However, the correct use of "whom" in one's sentences makes it distinct, posh and classy. It raises the user's shoulders and portrays him/her as one who has the
command of the language. Above all, it shows that he is well guided and
grounded in the language.
Quiz
From what you've learnt in this article, give the correct expression to
each of the following question(s) or statements below:
1. I am confused. Who/Whom should I ask to leave?
2. Tammy is yet to decide who/whom should be the class representative.
3. All I need right now is just a friend on who/whom I can depend.